Your son or daughter is moving out! Is it a parent’s dream? For many, yes, but…
You have given your child your best of everything for his whole life. You have given your attention, you have figured out ways to teach him or her and you have created the best IEPs you possibly could. You’ve prepared for the future.
Now that the future is here, how do you let go? How can anyone else do what you have done for the last 20 to 30 years?
They will not do it as well as you have, but your child must learn to depend on someone other than you. Of course, that is an easy thing to say; it is much harder to see to completion. The emotions you have are the same for any parent with a young adult who moves out, whether to college or into an apartment. Remember, you want this for your child. That is why you have worked so hard all these years.
Here are 11 strategies to help you with this momentous event:
Is it every parent’s dream for their child to move out? No, it’s not. Some parents want their children to live with them for many years. In some families, the siblings will take care of the person with FXS. They may even be able to stay in the same house they grew up or currently live in.
However, families need to plan for when *gulp* you’re not here. It is not an easy thing to think about, much less plan for. I understand that the older my son gets, the older I get, whether I like it or not. Spend some time thinking about what is going to work in your family. Families should do what works for them and what they think is best for their child. Planning for that as much as you can is best for your child.
There are many routes to go and they can take different lengths of time for every family. Your son or daughter might be 22 or 52 by the time they are ready. The big question for many might start with “Will my child ever be able to move out?” With plenty of work on your part and a lot of preparation with your child, I would say, “Yes.”